add khatru.IsInternal() for dealing with internal calls specifically in QueryEvents()

deleting.go

@@ -39,6 +39,7 @@ func (rl *Relay) handleDeleteRequest(ctx context.Context, evt *nostr.Event) erro
 				continue
 			}
 
+			ctx := context.WithValue(ctx, internalCallKey, struct{}{})
 			for _, query := range rl.QueryEvents {
 				ch, err := query(ctx, f)
 				if err != nil {

expiration.go

@@ -107,6 +107,7 @@ func (em *expirationManager) checkExpiredEvents(ctx context.Context) {
 
 		heap.Pop(&em.events)
 
+		ctx := context.WithValue(ctx, internalCallKey, struct{}{})
 		for _, query := range em.relay.QueryEvents {
 			ch, err := query(ctx, nostr.Filter{IDs: []string{next.id}})
 			if err != nil {

utils.go

@@ -10,6 +10,7 @@ const (
 	wsKey = iota
 	subscriptionIdKey
 	nip86HeaderAuthKey
+	internalCallKey
 )
 
 func RequestAuth(ctx context.Context) {
@@ -40,6 +41,12 @@ func GetAuthed(ctx context.Context) string {
 	return ""
 }
 
+// IsInternalCall returns true when a call to QueryEvents, for example, is being made because of a deletion
+// or expiration request.
+func IsInternalCall(ctx context.Context) bool {
+	return ctx.Value(internalCallKey) != nil
+}
+
 func GetIP(ctx context.Context) string {
 	conn := GetConnection(ctx)
 	if conn == nil {